Years ago I found a book about the evolution of human sexuality. Since then its been a topic to peak my interest. Finally I’m reading a book that’s made some of it clear. I have so many questions as to casual sexual encounters and monogamy. I read a passage today that talked about the genetic make up of females and how it differs sexually from males. Everything else about us is different, why shouldn’t that be? The book I’m reading is by a sexual therapist, and I have no doubt he knows what he’s talking about. Whether we like it or not girls there is a double-standard when it comes to sex, just not in the way we think.  Even if a woman sleeps with a man that she knows she’s not really into, an emotional bond is formed. Its in our genetics, and there’s nothing we can do about it. But think about it, this make perfect sense. In the animal world a males instinct is to ‘plant his seed’ to ensure offspring. Once a female has been ‘implanted’ she’s of no use to other males. Evolution has created females in a way that we be faithful and loyal to our partners, hence the emtional connection. So even though we’ve fought for equality and like to think we can act as men by sleeping with whom ever we please without any consequences, its just not in our nature to do so. Don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean were any lesser because of this, we’re just created differently. The point the book made is this, “You can treat sex lightly but it doesn’t reciprocate. Sex matters. There are biological and evolutionary forces at work every time you have sex.”

Its really no wonder we’ve been taken advantage of so many times. Honestly, how may times have you slept with a guy only to feel remorse later on? I know I have. We’ve mixed up the ideas of the feminist movement with sexual freedom and we don’t want to deal with the consequences that follow. Shows such as sex in the city have tricked women into thinking they don’t have feelings.

I’m not saying we don’t have needs, on the contrary our needs and desires can be stronger then males. The female body is built for sex. There is one part of the female anatomy built strictly for pleasure. And guess what, it has twice as many nerve endings as the male penis. So its only natural for us to want to act on our desires. We deserve pleasure too! We just need to take all this into consideration next time we think we can have intercourse and casually walk away.

A great quote I got from this book, “A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.”

Time is a strange this isn’t it? Time is defined by a continuous period measured by clocks and calendars. To physicists, time is defined by quantum mechanics. To each one of us time is a precious thing. For me time keeps order. Without time everyone would just do what they want when they want. How would business function? I don’t know if it’s a compulsion I have, or the way I was brought up, but time to me is a very sensitive issue. I feel violated when others don’t respect a sense of time. In the past this has brought up many issues for me between freinds. Please don’t misunderstand me, I don’t feel I’m completely unsympathetic. I absolutely understand that in certain situations things happen out of out control and its not always possible to keep time. It’s the instances where people have no disregard for others in their lack of keeping time. I feel its extremely rude and selfish when people are constantly late. I feel it show very little respect for others when someone is late. I would never set a time I knew I couldn’t honor, and don’t understand why others constantly do. I do see how my ridged sense of timeliness can seem selfish. But I take personal offence when people show little disregard for the fact that we’ve made specific plans and I’m respectful enough to be ready at the said time and they are not. Don’t get me wrong, there has been plenty of instances where I’m not ready when I should be, but I do what I can to avoid this.  And thats all i expect in return.  I’d love to sit back and do things at my leisure, but when someone is expecting me I feel it is extremely selfish of me to just show up at my own convince. I don’t like my time wasted and thus try not to do it to others. The thing about time is once its gone, you can never get it back. Yes, it would be self centered of me to expect others to know and be ready at the moment I am, but isn’t that why we set a time, together? So we know when we are expected to be ready? Without keeping time the world would be in a state of chaos. And thus when someone squanders what I consider to be my own precious time I become in a state of chaos. I do not enjoy the feeling of being late and having to rush. I do not like other’s having to wait for me, therefore I do not appreciate when others force me to be on their time when it should have been our time.

This is the reason I do not support PETA. I have no idea how many of its members are Vegan, or even Vegetarian, but I’m positive is not many. I recently met this girl who claims to be an animal activist, I mentioned something to her about eating meat and she flipped out on me. I think she may be a little psycho anyway, but come on people. If u care at all about animals how can you justify eating them?? Its so hypocritical to say puppies and kittens are worth saving yet calves and piglets aren’t. Get a freaking clue. I know its hard to make the connection between your pet and an animal you’ve never met, but it’s not so far fetched. I guarantee if more people were around farm animals and saw that they too have their own personalities, likes and dislikes, that they couldn’t justify eating them any more. Because they taste good isn’t a good enough reason to do what we do to them. WE HAVE NO NUTRITIONAL NEED FOR ANIMAL FLESH OR SECRETIONS. None! So to eat them is merely for pleasure, yes I once ate steaks, bacon, cheese sauces, and yes I enjoyed them, but I’ve learned what happens to them and how selfish I was being by eating them. This girl briefly spoke with wouldn’t even give me a chance to tell my side. I simply was making a statement about her supporting animals yet eating them. She informed me she didn’t eat them any more (which I think she was lying), but she’s not vegan because that’s too extreme. I don’t understand what’s so extreme about it? Which leads me to believe she doesn’t really have a clue what it means to be vegan, like many people. But I tried talking to her, I wanted to tell her I wasn’t trying to convert her or anything. In fact I commended her on her compassion for animals. I mistakenly thought we were fighting for the same cause, and wanted to shre that with her, but I see I was wrong. Unfortunately its because of people like her that the animals continue to suffer. People like her make people like me seem ‘extreme’ As long as vegetarians continue to ignore the suffering in their milk and egg products, the suffering will still exist.