Years ago I found a book about the evolution of human sexuality. Since then its been a topic to peak my interest. Finally I’m reading a book that’s made some of it clear. I have so many questions as to casual sexual encounters and monogamy. I read a passage today that talked about the genetic make up of females and how it differs sexually from males. Everything else about us is different, why shouldn’t that be? The book I’m reading is by a sexual therapist, and I have no doubt he knows what he’s talking about. Whether we like it or not girls there is a double-standard when it comes to sex, just not in the way we think.  Even if a woman sleeps with a man that she knows she’s not really into, an emotional bond is formed. Its in our genetics, and there’s nothing we can do about it. But think about it, this make perfect sense. In the animal world a males instinct is to ‘plant his seed’ to ensure offspring. Once a female has been ‘implanted’ she’s of no use to other males. Evolution has created females in a way that we be faithful and loyal to our partners, hence the emtional connection. So even though we’ve fought for equality and like to think we can act as men by sleeping with whom ever we please without any consequences, its just not in our nature to do so. Don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean were any lesser because of this, we’re just created differently. The point the book made is this, “You can treat sex lightly but it doesn’t reciprocate. Sex matters. There are biological and evolutionary forces at work every time you have sex.”

Its really no wonder we’ve been taken advantage of so many times. Honestly, how may times have you slept with a guy only to feel remorse later on? I know I have. We’ve mixed up the ideas of the feminist movement with sexual freedom and we don’t want to deal with the consequences that follow. Shows such as sex in the city have tricked women into thinking they don’t have feelings.

I’m not saying we don’t have needs, on the contrary our needs and desires can be stronger then males. The female body is built for sex. There is one part of the female anatomy built strictly for pleasure. And guess what, it has twice as many nerve endings as the male penis. So its only natural for us to want to act on our desires. We deserve pleasure too! We just need to take all this into consideration next time we think we can have intercourse and casually walk away.

A great quote I got from this book, “A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.”